Struggling

So, I have been struggling with this for almost a week and still haven't come to terms with it. Background - I have limited contact iwth my father's family... cards here and there (typical of divorced family). My mother had custody so all of my family contact is on her side of the family. Let's break that down - my mother has one brother whose only child died at about 9 months. She then has an older sister who has three children. So... I only have 3 cousins in my life, who I was raised with. Let's go from there.... My parents missed their church meeting on Sunday, which was a total shock as they are die hard fanatics. (Don't even get me started!!!). They ended up leaving the house at about 1ish, all dressed up... we figure they are going to a meeting somewhere else to support a specific person. WRONG!!! My cousin (1 of 3, the one who is 6 weeks younger than me so we were the closest growing up) got married. My parents said not a peep to me. They left, went to his wedding, and came back within about 7 hours. Nothing was said until my step-father mentioned it to my husband the next day. REALLY!?!?! I have a whopping 3 cousins in this world and no one even felt the need to mention it to me... (Let's not even deal with the whole dynamics of the whole wedding... a whole other story). The issue is - my parents say the family has no issue with me and wants to ment fences with me... blah... blah... blah... Any issues between us is a figment of my imagination... um, yeah.... don't think so or you wouldn't be sneaking off without a peep to anyone. And the "family" wonders why I have issues with them.... go figure....